What is the malfunction with the younger generation? While it may not be all of them, it seems like it everytime i turn around. While we are breeding a generation of offspring that are born with more raw intelligence, they are also coming into this world with considerably less and less common sense and street smarts.
Too often i here about the concept of the parent not wanting their child to have it as hard as they had it. Well none of us do i suppose to a degree. But to what end? The word EARN is fading away. One day people will look at it and ask what language that is. Entitlement is the new way. "i think, therefore give me". Higher levels of mental dicipline are almost completely absent. Lack of respect for authority.
A quote from myself...
It amazes me, given the sexual habits of the younger generation, they still seem genuinely surprised when she says "i'm pregnant" AND have the ignorance to follow up with "how did that happen"
you can infer much about where i am going when i talk about the state of our youngsters with that quote. What is wrong with these people?
I do however have the peace of mind to know that when this generation starts to really breed and those offspring start to come of age i will be almost dead.
A particular individual sticks out in my head. the young guy joins the Army. Goes infantry and becomes a badass. Not a bad start, i had hope for this individual. then slowly the signs emerged. He whined about going to the field and cried about being away from home. Friends of his age would sympathize with him. OK thats fine he is homesick. Then he fails a drug test. Oh no now his life is ruined becasue he has to face the consequences. Consequences? WTF? What are those? He complained how his life was over becasue he had extra duty now and they docked his pay and demoted him. Like what did he do to deserve this? And still his like aged friends sympathize with him. Then he starts talking suicide and gets put on suicide watch because he cant take it anymore? KILL YOURSELF THEN PUSSY!!! And still his friends sympathize with him. No "tough love". No "WTF were you thinkin doing drugs"? No "get your shit together dude". None.
While in situations like this it is easy to lump the whole of the generation in with this weak minded piece of shit, every now and then i see a glimmer of hope. A lost soul that doesnt seem to belong in its generation, light years ahead of its peers.
While i am typically an out with the old and in with the new kind if person. This is an area where someone is yet to prove to me something is better than the old school approach. I had belts and wooden spoons taken to my ass growin up and im fine. I see no reason to not continue with these methods.
The over-protection needs to end. In todays world and society maximum exsposure is required to develop an appreciation for is really going on. While opinions and such will be formed differently for the individual, they do need to be formed from that exsposure.
While i could take this in a million directions and tangents over infinite variations of this topic i will stop here and leave this last thought.
there is absolutely nothing wrong with learning the hard way...ever.
Monday, April 23, 2012
Monday, April 16, 2012
The Best Friend
Everyone has had one in some form or fashion in their life. This person is a unique combination of elements that allows them to fill many rolls at the same time depending on what your needs are. They can be your brother, sister, friend, psychotherapist, mother, father, undertaker, eyes, ears, sidekick, the list goes on and on. And they do any or all of these at the same time despite you already having and individual one of each of these somewhere else in your life.
Now in my own opinion of the matter you can really only have ONE of these. I have had several but never more than ONE in my life at a time. For example my best friend during my high school years lives across the country, has a family and we dont get to see each other or talk as much. He will always be my best friend and brother. At the moment i have current best friend that lives here and someone ive grown close to. Therefore he fills those shoes at this moment. Some people may have many close friends that picking one is difficult or they feel they might betray someone else if they did. Irrelavant, deep down inside there is always ONE go to person.
The handful of people that have filled these roles are all very diverse people when compared to each other. You might say each one was a good fit for that stage in my life.
There are a few things ive learned over the years however. As a kid growing up you used to equate your best friend to the person you spent the most time with. While this may have been true, as we get older this doesnt have to be the case. Enter the quality vs quantity argument. I used to also think once upon a time this person was there to take your side (supposedly becasue you thought alike or understood each other very well) for everything. But through my own experiences being a best friend to other people there job is to also smack you up side the head and set your stupid ass straight. Respect is also a large part. If you have to worry about pissing off your own best friend then its not what you think it is. Even with all the roles listed earlier, the one thing a best is NOT and should NOT be is a babysitter. And im not talking about kids.
The title of best friend isnt even a title, or label, or anything. Its not something you have to acknowledge or work at. IT JUST IS. your best friend isnt punching a time clock and working at being your best friend. this person just is. Its a bond all its own. Naturally developed and grown and nurtured through pure interaction.
Now a classic modern day argument is that your spouse or significant other should be your best friend or is your best friend. This method of logic simply doesnt compute for me. While you should absolutely be close to this person almost on that level it doesnt balance the equation for me. These need to be 2 different people. the raw emotion and love and all that stuff involved can cloud judgement and distort the functionality that is the core of the best friend.
The best friend is definately an important part for every part of life from childhood to senior citizen.
In the end i have to say that the people who have been my best friends thought the various stages of my life have had an enormous impact on the person i have become. I do not doubt that being that type of person to me was not easy at times and would like to think i acknowledged this much at the time.
Now your best friend is typically the person who requires no thanks or appreciation. That doesnt mean you shouldnt do it anyway...
Now in my own opinion of the matter you can really only have ONE of these. I have had several but never more than ONE in my life at a time. For example my best friend during my high school years lives across the country, has a family and we dont get to see each other or talk as much. He will always be my best friend and brother. At the moment i have current best friend that lives here and someone ive grown close to. Therefore he fills those shoes at this moment. Some people may have many close friends that picking one is difficult or they feel they might betray someone else if they did. Irrelavant, deep down inside there is always ONE go to person.
The handful of people that have filled these roles are all very diverse people when compared to each other. You might say each one was a good fit for that stage in my life.
There are a few things ive learned over the years however. As a kid growing up you used to equate your best friend to the person you spent the most time with. While this may have been true, as we get older this doesnt have to be the case. Enter the quality vs quantity argument. I used to also think once upon a time this person was there to take your side (supposedly becasue you thought alike or understood each other very well) for everything. But through my own experiences being a best friend to other people there job is to also smack you up side the head and set your stupid ass straight. Respect is also a large part. If you have to worry about pissing off your own best friend then its not what you think it is. Even with all the roles listed earlier, the one thing a best is NOT and should NOT be is a babysitter. And im not talking about kids.
The title of best friend isnt even a title, or label, or anything. Its not something you have to acknowledge or work at. IT JUST IS. your best friend isnt punching a time clock and working at being your best friend. this person just is. Its a bond all its own. Naturally developed and grown and nurtured through pure interaction.
Now a classic modern day argument is that your spouse or significant other should be your best friend or is your best friend. This method of logic simply doesnt compute for me. While you should absolutely be close to this person almost on that level it doesnt balance the equation for me. These need to be 2 different people. the raw emotion and love and all that stuff involved can cloud judgement and distort the functionality that is the core of the best friend.
The best friend is definately an important part for every part of life from childhood to senior citizen.
In the end i have to say that the people who have been my best friends thought the various stages of my life have had an enormous impact on the person i have become. I do not doubt that being that type of person to me was not easy at times and would like to think i acknowledged this much at the time.
Now your best friend is typically the person who requires no thanks or appreciation. That doesnt mean you shouldnt do it anyway...
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