Everybody dies. Its unavoidable yet we struggle against it. Why? Is it fear? Fear of the unknown? Fear of leaving loved ones behind? There are couple aspects of this that really throw me for a loop sometimes.
Doctors. Talk about the the biggest hypocrits in the world. There is no bigger one than a doctor. This guy will sit in his office and tell you "you cant put a price on life" then slap you with medical bills you couldnt hope to repay in 4 lifetimes as he heads home in his Ferrari. Why try to keep people alive as long as possible? Well thats easy, to make more money from taking care of a half invalid person that is suppose to be grateful that their heart still beats even though they cant even go pee under their own power. And people wonder why long term care is so exspensive. Its extortion. Exploitation of the elderly. Its not like the old days when it was the burden of the family to take care of their own and to do so was a sense of repayment for their work as a parent.
This leads to the religious part which goes hand in hand with the individuals response to death. Now Most religions consistantly tell us there is this glorious afterlife waiting for us. Take your pick from heavan to 40 virgins (the latter would be hell in my opinion having to retrain that many) or whatever. Now if this afterlife is so glorious and you believe that it really does exist, why arent we killing ourselves to get there? Well duh, they put in the suicide clause that says you go straight to hell if you cheat and kill yourself, do not pass GO, do not collect $200, unless of course you are a terrorist then you get the golden hall pass.
Family members. These people never cease to amaze me. Even my own. They cry and weep and mourn. Well if you believe that whoever died has gone on to a "better place"....WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU CRYING? Well thats easy too...because people are selfish. The only reason for being sad is that you want that person to still be around for the sake of YOU feeling better. If they are truly in a better place then why on earth would you want them back? And if thats the case why are we having a funeral to mourn the loss? Throw a kegger for cryin out loud. Celebrate the transition to this better place. I mean i only go to funerals for the little sandwichs...dont we all?
I was fairly young the first time i saw death. Before 9 but older than 5. I didnt cry. I vividly remember that part. My grandmother was sick her whole life. Almost a modern day Job when i look back. Maybe not that bad. But the stories and the few memories, it had to suck.
I will finish this in classic fashion, with some wisdom about death from Yoda.
"Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you who transform into the Force. Mourn them do not, miss them do not"
Saturday, October 29, 2011
Friday, October 14, 2011
Tipping
I am all about tipping. Go to a good place and get some good grub and have a good server. Now in a traditional setting like an Applebees or Chilis for example the server has a set of duties to perform. For me the biggie is to keep my soda full. Everyone has their thing and this is mine and most of what i tip depends on this particular task. Now i also understand that not everything is within this persons control. So even good damage control can warrent a good tip. I think the current standard is 15-20% for good service?
Now what about a more non-traditional setting? A good example of this would be a Golden Corral or buffett environment. You get a server but the ONLY task is to simply keep you glass full. I mean you do everything else yourself. Do you tip these people? And if so how much? I mean seriously to me that isnt worth 15%. Now if my server came over and did some juggling or danced a jig well now we get points for being entertaining but im not tipping 15% for simply keeping my glass full. And in those places half the time they cant even do that. My glass will be empty for like 5 minutes. Yes it doesnt sound long but when you consider you are only in this place for about 30-45 minutes then thats a lot.
Now for the one that really irritates the hell out of me. Back in cheeseheadland where im from minimum wage jobs were just that...minimum wage jobs. you dealt with it. When i moved out west to where all these greedy "entitlement" liberals exist (damn them all to hell). Ok so Arizona is mostly conservatives but anyway...THERE WAS A TIP JAR EVERY WHERE!!!! In the Subway, a local deli, the yogurt shop, STARBUCKS. Are you serious? They didnt do that shit where i came from. Whats up with these people. Now i don't know what other people do but there is no ediquette anywhere spoken or unspoken that says to tip these people. So i don't. Its a cup asking for a free hand out for doing your job that you already get paid to do. Some times they even get creative and call it so and so's college or car fund. Its almost like a pet peeve because it burns me everytime i see one.
Anyway this wanting a tip for everything is out of control.
Do you tip the Direct TV guy who just put in your TV stuff? Why not he did his job that he gets paid for.
Do you tip the plumber who just fixed your toilet? Why not? So what if he charges $60 an hour he did his job.
Do you tip the cashier at the grocery store?
Do you tip the used car salesman that just sold you that car? LOL now thats a good one.
Anyway I havnt been back east in a while to see if this disease has spread. If it has then they can kiss my ass too. If you want good tips go be a stripper.
Anyway on a side note the standard tip for your bartender is $1 per drink.
Now what about a more non-traditional setting? A good example of this would be a Golden Corral or buffett environment. You get a server but the ONLY task is to simply keep you glass full. I mean you do everything else yourself. Do you tip these people? And if so how much? I mean seriously to me that isnt worth 15%. Now if my server came over and did some juggling or danced a jig well now we get points for being entertaining but im not tipping 15% for simply keeping my glass full. And in those places half the time they cant even do that. My glass will be empty for like 5 minutes. Yes it doesnt sound long but when you consider you are only in this place for about 30-45 minutes then thats a lot.
Now for the one that really irritates the hell out of me. Back in cheeseheadland where im from minimum wage jobs were just that...minimum wage jobs. you dealt with it. When i moved out west to where all these greedy "entitlement" liberals exist (damn them all to hell). Ok so Arizona is mostly conservatives but anyway...THERE WAS A TIP JAR EVERY WHERE!!!! In the Subway, a local deli, the yogurt shop, STARBUCKS. Are you serious? They didnt do that shit where i came from. Whats up with these people. Now i don't know what other people do but there is no ediquette anywhere spoken or unspoken that says to tip these people. So i don't. Its a cup asking for a free hand out for doing your job that you already get paid to do. Some times they even get creative and call it so and so's college or car fund. Its almost like a pet peeve because it burns me everytime i see one.
Anyway this wanting a tip for everything is out of control.
Do you tip the Direct TV guy who just put in your TV stuff? Why not he did his job that he gets paid for.
Do you tip the plumber who just fixed your toilet? Why not? So what if he charges $60 an hour he did his job.
Do you tip the cashier at the grocery store?
Do you tip the used car salesman that just sold you that car? LOL now thats a good one.
Anyway I havnt been back east in a while to see if this disease has spread. If it has then they can kiss my ass too. If you want good tips go be a stripper.
Anyway on a side note the standard tip for your bartender is $1 per drink.
Thursday, October 6, 2011
To be or not to be...
I always wanted to be married by 25 and live the perceived normal life. I am about to turn 34 and still havent tackled that one yet. The longest relationship so far is 3 years. Being alone is something i have gotten very good at. This raises an interesting question. How is it someone like me who deep inside really does want that someone special still manage to handle being alone so well? Why is it that others i know cant handle it at all?
I try to operate on the premise that i'm not going to be alone forever. This allows me to maximize and enjoy my alone time. But does too much of this make it so you cant adapt when the time comes to be with someone? in my early adult years moving around alot with the Army made it so that all attachments of any kind had to be left behind. So a routine of sorts develops. The types of things you do to keep your mind occupied that in a full blown relationship wouldn't really take place so much. The routine becomes a lifestyle. One that you become happy with and even enjoy. But why is it that some people HAVE to have someone in their life ALL the time?
Is it because they havent developed that equilibrium with themselves being alone? Is their own ego perhaps not strong enough to carry weight of reassuring themselves on its own? Is the reverse true that if you spend all these years in a marrage or relationship that the notion of being alone is to scary to think about? much like people like myself having been more or less alone ponder the situation of simply not being able to adapt to something as substantial as a super longterm relationship or marrage.
Perhaps the most amazing part is how we look at these things. A person committing their life to a single person from being alone is a happy transition? Really? So much so you get all dressed up and celebrate this loss of personal freedom. Then there is the flip side. Oh im so sorry you have ALL your freedom back. Tough times ahead when you can do what ever you want. Sounds kind of backwards. But time and time again we as humans LOVE being tied down. Kinda like a dog. Screw running around the backyard, i want to be tied to the fence post on a 10 foot chain.
A logical thought would be that somewhere exists a balance or a harmony. What would it take to achieve this? LOL see The Puzzle Piece Theory.
I often wonder if im too used to being alone. That certain qualities required for a good relationship have been lost in translation. Can they be learned again or remembered? Or is the routine so embedded that it can't be changed? The same could be said of the opposite.
Now while it is the natural order of things for us to co-exist in 2s (male and female to be VERY specific) its worth noting that it would seem there are plenty of factors that affect our ability to do this in what would be considered the ideal manner.
While i do live in America, one might say that a married man doesnt necessarily live in "the land of the free"....lol
I try to operate on the premise that i'm not going to be alone forever. This allows me to maximize and enjoy my alone time. But does too much of this make it so you cant adapt when the time comes to be with someone? in my early adult years moving around alot with the Army made it so that all attachments of any kind had to be left behind. So a routine of sorts develops. The types of things you do to keep your mind occupied that in a full blown relationship wouldn't really take place so much. The routine becomes a lifestyle. One that you become happy with and even enjoy. But why is it that some people HAVE to have someone in their life ALL the time?
Is it because they havent developed that equilibrium with themselves being alone? Is their own ego perhaps not strong enough to carry weight of reassuring themselves on its own? Is the reverse true that if you spend all these years in a marrage or relationship that the notion of being alone is to scary to think about? much like people like myself having been more or less alone ponder the situation of simply not being able to adapt to something as substantial as a super longterm relationship or marrage.
Perhaps the most amazing part is how we look at these things. A person committing their life to a single person from being alone is a happy transition? Really? So much so you get all dressed up and celebrate this loss of personal freedom. Then there is the flip side. Oh im so sorry you have ALL your freedom back. Tough times ahead when you can do what ever you want. Sounds kind of backwards. But time and time again we as humans LOVE being tied down. Kinda like a dog. Screw running around the backyard, i want to be tied to the fence post on a 10 foot chain.
A logical thought would be that somewhere exists a balance or a harmony. What would it take to achieve this? LOL see The Puzzle Piece Theory.
I often wonder if im too used to being alone. That certain qualities required for a good relationship have been lost in translation. Can they be learned again or remembered? Or is the routine so embedded that it can't be changed? The same could be said of the opposite.
Now while it is the natural order of things for us to co-exist in 2s (male and female to be VERY specific) its worth noting that it would seem there are plenty of factors that affect our ability to do this in what would be considered the ideal manner.
While i do live in America, one might say that a married man doesnt necessarily live in "the land of the free"....lol
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