I have been getting asked about this quite a bit so it is fresh in my mind. Most of the time only certain parts get explainded or talked about. Most people seem to see the logic in it and others seem to think they are the lucky ones in the theory.
We have all built a puzzle at one time or another of some kind. You spend all kinds of time fitting many combinations of 2 pieces together until its finished. Through this process you always come across those to pieces that look like they go together, kind of go together, but after a 2nd good look you just automatically know that they dont. Usually because there is an edge that just doesnt have that perfect fit.
Now I'm sure some Dr. Phil wannabe has suggested something like this at some time. But guess what, he isn't here.
We as people looking for our partner in life are quite the same. The old saying there is someone out there for everyone is quite true. But the chances of you actually ending up with that person (give the pure amount of people in the world combined with a persons pure lack of exposure) are relatively small. As far as exposure goes the odds that you have simply walked by this person in public at any time is small. A classic example i think of is those high school sweethearts we all remember getting married and being together forever. The odds that they are the 2 correct pieces? Probably zero. A person can get "used" to anyone over time. I'll come back to that.
So what about the people we do choose? Well since hind sight is 20/20 you tell me. Typically the person we choose to marry or choose for a long term relationship is more likey a piece that looks like it fits or comes close. Because this is the closest most people will see they come to accept that as the perfect piece. This is where the ignorance sets in. Ignorance simply being a state of not knowing any better. Some people choose to stick with what is close and others go there whole live either holding out or constantly jumping ship trying to find that piece. This is not to be confused with "the grass is greener..." because numbers would say that there is a piece for you out there in which the grass IS greener.
Someone mentioned that while the may not be the perfect piece that the 2 of them make it fit. Well I can take 2 of anything and superglue it together and make it fit. That doesnt change the fact that those 2 pieces were not the perfect fit. Also adapting yourself to someone is natural, they call that "smoothing the edges". Now this doenst mean go kick your significant others to the curb and start traveling the world. What it does mean is that sometimes ignorance really is bliss. But the odd thing is that it is only bliss for as long as you are happy. So logically its worth noting that chances are there is something that is a better fit, but at the same time since many wont be able to really comprehend what something better could possibly be (especially if they are currently happy or satisfied), they will simply acknowledge that ignorance is bliss. But then every once in a while some people do in fact get lucky.
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